Serious dating in London: find intent before you like

London dating without the guessing game

London dating can be exhausting. You match with someone, chat for days, finally meet for a drink, and halfway through you realise they want casual while you're looking for something real. Or the opposite. Three dates in, you're realising you've wasted your time on someone who was never looking for what you are.

Then you unmatch, swipe again, and repeat.

The problem isn't you. The problem is that most apps keep intent hidden until after you've already liked someone.

The mismatch trap

You see a photo. You read a bio. You swipe or tap. Then — maybe — you match. Only then can you message and actually find out what they want.

By that point, you've already spent a like on them. You've already created a notification in their inbox. The app has already suggested you to each other, and now you're both in the matching silo together.

If their intent doesn't align with yours, you've both wasted time.

Worse: some people don't even state their intent in their bio. So you're left guessing from their photos and a vague "just here to see what happens." That could mean anything.

How rizzed flips it: intent on the card

rizzed shows intent before you like.

Every profile card displays one of five intent options:

• Something real — looking for a relationship
• Casual, open to more — open to casual that might develop into something else
• Just vibes — keeping it light, no pressure
• Figuring it out — not sure yet what they want
• Friends, maybe more — starting with friendship, seeing where it goes

You see this before you tap Like or Pass. You know what they're after. You know if it aligns with what you want.

If you're serious about finding something real and they're just vibing, you Pass and move on. No wasted like. No matched-then-unmatched awkwardness. No three dates later realising you were never on the same page.

Why this matters for serious dating

Serious dating isn't about finding a soulmate. It's about finding someone who actually wants what you want, and filtering out the people who don't.

Intent transparency does that work upfront.

You spend your likes on people who are actually looking for the same thing. Your matches are with people who chose you knowing what you're after. When you chat and meet, you're not negotiating intentions on a first date — you're already aligned.

That doesn't guarantee a relationship. A person who says "Something real" might still not be your person. But they're looking for the same direction as you. That's the starting point.

Age-checked, no catfish

Intent only works if you're talking to real people.

rizzed is 18+ only. No teen mode. Before anyone can appear on your For You or Nearby feed, they pass age check.

That starts with Didit: a selfie age estimate plus liveness check. If you're 18–24, rizzed may also ask for ID plus a face match to confirm you're you.

Your photos go through screening too. No stock images, no AI faces, no someone else's nudes. Bans are immediate, not warnings.

It doesn't promise that every person is genuine or safe — nothing can — but the friction you're removing is the catfish and the teen pretending to be older. That's already a step forward.

Chat opens when you both want it

One more layer: you don't get cold-messaged.

Chat only opens when both people have liked each other, or when you accept a slide from Who's down. Who's down shows people who already liked or slid into you — capped intros, not unsolicited DMs.

No one's inbox is flooded with messages from people you've never expressed interest in. No matching someone then getting a flood of "hey beautiful" or worse before you've even decided if you like them.

Chat is consent-based. Both people have already signalled interest. You're both choosing to talk.

Discovery and chat stay free

You don't pay to see who's interested in you. You don't pay to match. You don't pay to chat.

On Free, your daily likes and slides are capped. Plus and Premium add more likes and slides — tools to discover more people. They don't add the right to talk. That's always free once you've matched or accepted a slide.

If you're serious about dating in London, you can find matches and chat without paying. The paywall isn't between you and conversation — it's between you and extra discovery.

Real people, real moderation

Photos, video, and voice messages are screened before they go live. Reports, blocks, and Safety settings are in your main path — not buried in a settings menu.

If someone's crossing a line, you report it. The report goes somewhere. Appeals exist. Under-18 accounts and CSAM get immediate bans and reports to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, not a slap on the wrist.

rizzed is moderated on purpose. Chats aren't end-to-end encrypted — they're monitored. That's a trade-off. Privacy trades for safety. For serious dating, that's usually the right call.

One more thing: verified means age-checked

When someone's profile says "Verified," it means they've passed age check. It doesn't mean they're a good person or that they won't ghost you or that they're relationship material.

It means they're over 18 and they're actually them. That's it. The rest is still on you to figure out — which is how it should be.

Start rizzing

Serious dating in London works better when you can see intent before you match. No more guessing. No more wasted likes on people heading in a different direction.

Start rizzing at getrizzed.app. London first, web plus iOS and Android. 18+ only.

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